Have you ever felt an instant like or dislike for someone you just met? Instant resonance/dissonance? Maybe you discovered you had something in common, an affinity for a sports team perhaps, or opposing teams, job similarities, a shared hobby, membership in competing organizations, etc. The nature of any rivalry or association may determine whether or not a friendship occurs.

        We are frequently looking to see what we have in common with others. The recognition of shared traits and characteristics is called resonance. It is natural and sometimes not conscious. Resonance is based on the frequencies of the energy we are. We may view these traits as positive, negative or neutral, again, unconsciously at times.

        Occasionally, we may be accused of being a negative expression of said trait with the negativity perhaps expressed only in the tone of the statement which may surprise us. We may wonder why the statement has been uttered, what did we do, where does the venom come from. This is not infrequently "projection."

        Projection may occur whenever an individual sees a trait which they themselves have but don't like to see, mirrored in another person. Their animosity may be triggered solely by the notice. Or not. This is an additional possibility to be considered in any difference we may encounter with another.

        Such experiences are useful. All parties may learn valuable lessons. Whenever we experience disagreement which we find upsetting, we can use it as an opportunity to learn about self.

        We may ask self why we are reacting as we are. Why do we feel this way? What is the basis for our feelings? The intensity? No two people react the same way to the same situation. And no one reacts the same way to similar but different situations. Why?

        We are responsible for our reactions to anything done by another, especially how we feel.. Why they act the way they do is their business. We are not to judge. It is none of our business. We are, however, to take a good look at what we do, how we act, and why. And without judging self.

        We may be experiencing such events more frequently now. These are opportunities for us to change our thinking and actions into more beneficial experiences while interacting with relatives, friends, acquaintances and others. These are opportunities for us to become better versions of ourselves, more loving expressions of who we are.

        Our choice.